NOT so REAL MOM Friday: A Day in the Life of Gwyneth Paltrow

A Day in the Life..My Version

I wonder if I’m the only sucker who dreams of what it must be like to be a celebrity.  I’d wake up looking effortlessly natural like one of those makeup commercials where they are advertising makeup but it doesn’t look like they are wearing any.  My hair is just the right amount of bed head, like you just went for a ride in a convertible, but not the kind where it looks like a rats nest, just perfectly tousled .  I’d kiss my husband and walk down my marble steps to have my personal chef deliver my perfect 500 calorie breakfast while of course the kids are already dressed, fed, bathed, and ready for school (I know it’s bad but in my dream, I’m a sellout and have lots of hired help but I’m still a hands on mom of course.)  Over the top..ya I know.   The sad part is I’ve actually really dreamed this a couple times.

I just can’t help but wonder what its REALLY like for a celebrity mom.   How do they actually manage mom, career woman, wife, all while looking like they just walked off a magazine cover page, and smiling all the time?    Well, thanks to Gwyneth Paltrow’s blog GOOP…we can have a little glimpse.  If you don’t follow her blog, it’s pretty good.  She’s much raunchier than you would think, and she writes about some great stuff if you happen to have some free time to roam the streets of Paris and London, or if your interior designer needs help finding the most expensive lamp in New York.  Either way, here’s a blog she wrote on what a day for her is like:

Gwyneth’s day on November 4th, 2010:

“When I got downstairs this morning at the crack of whenever, the coffee machine said “ERROR 8” and wouldn’t let me make the cup I had been dreaming about. This begs the question: is it odd to dream yourself to sleep thinking about the next morning’s coffee? Not a good beginning. Got Apple all fed and dressed in her uniform and ready to go but no sign nor sight of Moses at 8 am and we have to be out of the house by 8:20. I went up to arouse the little man from slumber and he quite happily got up and crawled into my arms. We got downstairs and I made him a quick breakfast of eggs and toast followed by a spoonful of lemon flavored flax oil that I try to remember to give them both every morning. Getting everyone into the car on time was a challenge; we’re going through a phase where no one seems to be responding to me (“Time to put on your shoes” … No response.)

It is the school Christmas toy drive deadline today so before jumping into the car, we pack up and finish decorating the shoe boxes with toys, toothbrushes, hats, scarves, books, etc, for the school Christmas toy drive. Once the kids really understand that the toys go to children around the world who will not be as fortunate as they are this year, they very sweetly take trips to the playroom adding their own toys and books to the boxes. Somehow managed to get to school just as the old-fashioned bell rang. Moses was a bit teary today so I hung around and watched him through the window. Periodically he would check to make sure I was still there.

When all was well I dodged off as fast as possible but was still late to the 9 am workout. Did dance aerobics for 45 minutes then all of the butt lifts and the like. Rushed upstairs to have a shower, doing my post workout stretch while the conditioner was doing its magic on my hair to combine activities/save time. Dressed quickly and rushed downstairs. On a less manic day, this would be my couple of hours in the office to work on GOOP, come up with ideas, write/edit and go over scheduling, travel, whatever else I have going but I have no time so I just pop the old cabeza in to see if there are any deadlines or fires that need putting out. When I am given the all clear I rush out the door, headed to rehearse with a band to prepare for the Country Music Awards which are just a week away.  I’ve never performed live before so I’m preparing for this as if it were the Superbowl, which, in it’s own way, it is. I’ve been having voice lessons with my teacher, Carrie Grant, every day and rehearsing with an amazing London-based band. This will be my fourth and shortest rehearsal of the week, as the day is so full, but I am excited to get in there and see everyone. Had to do my vocal exercises/warmups in the car, sooo not a good look. Fellow drivers looked on a bit bewildered. Rehearsed with the band from 11:30 to 12:30 and then scooted back out to the car and had kind of a big interview on the phone while trying to subtly check/reply to well-overdue email.

Got home and had a fitting with super stylist Elizabeth Saltzman for the upcoming Nashville trip (what to wear, what to wear?) from 1-2. This is my 4th out of 5 fittings for this trip. We tried on a myriad of dresses and outfits, and I had b.o. by the end of it from wrestling with all of those dresses. I have six looks I need to choose for the trip; there’s the radio press conference upon arrival, the red carpet for the Country Strong premier, press interviews, a Sony Music VIP dinner, the red carpet for the CMA’s and the outfit for my performance! We manage to finalize all of the looks for the (very nerve wracking) trip. At 2 pm I head into my office with a nice cup of tea for two hours of phone interviews. I am doing lots of these this week, but today’s session is only two hours. I call country radio station after country radio station speaking to some of the nicest and friendliest DJ’s on the planet. Thursday is the one day of the week that I do not pick my kids up after school. They go straight to an activity and I am able to really maximize work stuff. I always feel a bit guilty (obviously) about it, but it means I can focus fully on them when they get home instead of trying to do two things at once.

At 4pm, my weekly owners’ and managers’ call takes place for the Tracy Anderson Method with our brilliant CEO Stephanie Stahl taking the lead. I basically listen and try to learn. Kiddies burst through the door and play in my office while I finish up, just drawing and hanging out and of course playing Plants vs Zombies on the iPad, their obsession that I have to limit like crazy! What up, gamers. Then downstairs to make cupcakes for tomorrow’s bake sale. It is ‘Bonfire night’ in the UK tomorrow and the bake sale is to celebrate and to raise money for charity. We decide on vanilla cupcakes with pink icing and green icing (from Tate’s Bakeshop cookbook with the icing from American Desserts cookbook).

At 6:30 pm we all get in the bath and it’s hair washing night for the kids (every other night—never popular). Then back downstairs to check on cupcakes and have a visit from an auntie and uncle. The kids indulge in a super sugary cupcake before bed but I don’t feel too bad because they had a brown rice stir fry for dinner with baked sweet potato on the side. It’s all about balance! My night to lay with Mosey so I tuck Apple in, say a prayer and go into Mosey’s room for a story, foot massage and quiet time. As soon as all was quiet, I rushed downstairs to grab a blazer and some blush and flung myself in the car for girls night. Lovely dinner and great conversation. 11:29 pm now, exhausted and ready to do it all again tomorrow!”

 

Ok so safe to say she may not fall into our “REAL MOM” category.  (Who really gets their kids to take lemon flax oil every morning).  But, nice to see she still does the school hustle, gets mom guilt, and tucks her kids into bed.

 

Do ALL Parents Love One Child More?

I recently read an article by one of my favorite mom bloggers Lisa Belkin of the New York Times, called Do All Parents Love One Child More.  I couldn’t help but carefully scan each line hoping to find the truth…AND… to find out if parents would actually admit to this.

In her article she breaks down the arguments of  the TIME Magazine article: Why Mom Liked You Best. The Science Behind Favoritism. The author, Jeffrey Kluger, says that ALL, and that is ALL (very bold statement) parents have a favorite.  He basically studied 400 sets of parents and their children over three years and concluded that “65 percent of mothers and 70 percent of fathers exhibited a preference for once child, usually the older one.”  As Lisa so brilliantly pointed out..this is not ALL parents.

Kluger then went further to compare humans to animal kingdom and our innate selfish need to see our own genes live on, and the whole survival of the fittest thing.  Meaning I assume, you would prefer the strongest child?  Nope, wrong again.

Lisa points out that his arguments is very contradicting showing evidence for a whole mix of favoritism scenarios.  Dad’s like sons, mom’s like daughters, parents like the child who’s most or least like them.  They may prefer the strong charismatic child, or they feel like they must nurture the weak child.  The only daughter or only son is another common favorite.  Any which way, it seems there is no clear scientific formula for favoritism as the author initially implied.

So I was prompted to call my own mother to get to the bottom of this.  I was really routing for the oldest is the favorite theory (being the oldest child of course).  “Mom, I read an article today and it said ALL parents have favorite…I just wanted to confirm that I was yours.”  Pause…waiting for confirmation.  She laughed on the other end and said “Yes of course I had favorites, it just depended on the moment.  And on who was asking for what.”  Having 5 kids and no help, I think my mom spent most of the 80’s and early 90’s in a child induced zombie survival like state, I don’t she couldn’t have had a favorite if she tried.  But, her stiff upper lip British upbringing may have hid any favoritism she had so props to you mom.  I can officially say I am free of emotional scarring from being or not being your favorite.

I really think it would be hard to get a real answer on this question.  Do I think a lot of parents have favorites…yes.  I also don’t think many parents are willing to admit that to themselves.  But I think most parents would agree there isn’t a limited supply of love that must be rationed between children.   The bottom line is each relationship with your children is different and unique, so your feelings towards each child will be different and unique, and different doesn’t mean better.   Lisa eloquently sums up the real challenge here.

“It’s easy to take sides and announce “I love my children equally” or confess “I think I love one more.” What’s hard is accepting that relationships are fluid, determined by the ever-changing variables that make a child (and a parent) who they are at any given moment. Those ups and downs, imbalances and inequities, are not something to overcome, but rather realities to be accepted. We treat them differently because they ARE different. Navigating that reality is the key to being a parent.”

 

What do you think?  Do ALL Parents Love One Child More? Leave us a comment below.

Will you be one of our REAL MOMS??

Attention Real Moms

Yes you, the one reading this.  The one who knows what it’s like to be in the trenches.  The one who knows what it’s like to wake up at 5 to baby, only to have woken up three times before 5, once for crying baby, once for crying toddler, one more for crying baby (whilst husband remains peacefully asleep).  The one who’s capable of getting 50 things done before 9 am..

  • Toddler breakfast attempt 1
  • Baby bottle and diaper change
  • Beg toddler to eat breakfast
  • Answer husband request for missing clothing item
  • Toddler breakfast attempt 3 while arguing over cartoon toddler thinks should be on tv but isn’t
  • Clean up toddler breakfast now on floor
  • Toddler bath while dressing baby
  • Baby spit up on clean clothes
  • Husband second request for missing item most likely in place he last left it
  • Toddler out of bath taking sweet time to get dressed
  • Toddler clothing argument about shorts in 50 degrees weather – toddler wins
  • 30 minute countdown to being late to preschool
  • Pack toddler snack
  • Pack diaper bag
  • Toddler has one shoe on can’t find the other
  • Grab baby ready to load car
  • Crap! Baby still has spit up on formerly clean clothes
  • 12 minutes until officially late
  • Baby spit up will have to wait
  • Other shoe found but toddler refuses to wear
  • Husband let’s you know we are out of coffee creamer
  • Threats to toddler begin
  • Toddler cries but allows shoe to be put on
  • Baby in car
  • Toddler in car
  • Kiss husband goodbye
  • Glance in car mirror to make sure you are not complete mess (acceptable for two day old dirty hair)
  • Toddler cries due to must have toy that got left on counter
  • 5 minutes until late, toy must stay home
  • Toddler cry turns to screams which immediately turns to stage 5 meltdown
  • Arrive at school
  • Baby out
  • Crying toddler out
  • Last attempt to sooth toddler by some sort of bribe
  • Baby poopy diaper smell appears
  • Toddler drop off success
  • Change diaper
  • Baby back in car
  • Deep breath

It’s now 8:45 a.m. (feels like 8:45 p.m.) but the day already feels like success – only Dr. appt, grocery shopping, dry cleaners,  laundry, playdate, dinner left to worry about today.  Just another day in the life of a Real Mom.

Does this sound familiar? Well then you are exactly who we are looking for.  WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU!  We want to hear a day in the life…your stories, funny things, your mom struggles, your experiences, advice…anything goes!   We know if you are going through it, other mom’s are too…and it’s nice to know you aren’t the only one. Check out some of our Real Mom Stories here.

Every Friday we will be featuring one of YOUR stories on our blog.  Please send us your real mom story, there are no special requirements…only that it’s real!  You can email to ttinney@wellements.com.

 

 

 

Ready for another baby? How long to wait?

Are you ready for another baby?

Even though you are a walking sleep deprived zombie, and maybe just barely getting the hang of this whole motherhood thing.  You’ve probably given some thought to the ideal size of your family. (Is anyone else confused when they say the average household has 2.3 children, I’ve never met someone with .3 of a child). So the thought has probably crossed your mind…how long should I wait?

Depending on your circumstances you may find different answers.  Here are some things to consider.

Reasons NOT to wait:

Timing – Children under the age of 1 haven’t gotten used to having an exclusive relationship with their parents so they may be more receptive to an addition and less likely to resent little brother/sister.

Sibling Bond – There is something to be said for the tight bond that is formed between siblings that are close in age. Plus, you will have an instant playmate for your first!

Age – Let’s be honest, if you are 38 and want two more children you may not have the luxury of waiting. According to The American Fertility Association 20% of American women now wait to have their first child until after age 35.

Faster they’re in faster they’re out – Maybe you’ve got big plans for your golden years and would like to get all your child rearing done at one time.  While immensely fulfilling, the child rearing years may not be the easiest of years. In fact many couples say it’s one of the most challenging times in a marriage.  We definitely can’t blame your for considering this one!

Reasons TO wait:

Timing: On the opposite end of the spectrum, waiting a couple years before having another gives you time to really enjoy being a new parent and allows you to give your child all the attention necessary.  Professor Jeannie Kidwell from the University of Tennessee in Knoxville says that children at age 4 have had time to enjoy the attention from mom and dad and are now more focused on their own independence.

Lifestyle: Maybe you’ve just gotten into a good routine with your other children, just gone back to work, or just reached the sleeping through the night stage.  Maybe for the first time you have time for your spouse again.  These are things to consider as you are likely to have to reestablish a balance in the family dynamic.

Money: This is a big one!  A conservative estimate of how much each child costs between, food, clothes, diapers, doctors, comes in at around $10,000 a year.   And while you may not be thinking of this during the diaper years, paying for college isn’t cheap and you may appreciate a couple years in between tuition payments.

Health: Often women aren’t in the same place as they were the first time they got pregnant.  Between breastfeeding, sleepless nights, and a adjusting to a new lifestyle women’s bodies can be completely depleted after the first pregnancy.  Not to mention some of the novelty and excitement you experienced the first pregnancy may have worn off.  You may not be following the rules as rigorously and with chasing number one around, going to your favorite prenatal yoga class is probably a pipe dream.  Did you know…

  • The placenta extracts nutrients, minerals and essential fatty acids from the mother. If these items aren’t supplied through the mother’s diet, they are taken from the mother, bones, tissues, and brain.
  • Pregnancy brain is no myth.  MRI’s done on women who had recently given birth showed actual brain shrinkage due to all of the essential fatty acids donated to the baby during pregnancy.
  • On an optimal diet, it can take women 2-3 years to replenish all the nutrients lost from pregnancy.  On the average American diet it can take much longer.
  • Without supplementation, it can take 4 years or more to replace iron lost during pregnancy.
  • Without replacing the essential nutrients, minerals and fatty acids lost, a second child may have a less ideal structure which can be seen in what’s called second sibling syndrome.
  • Doctors found that babies conceived less than six months after the birth of a previous child are 40 percent more apt to be born prematurely or underweight.

Most research shows that the ideal interval between babies is 24 to 35 months.  However, we know there are many things to consider when planning another addition to your family.  While friends, family and even your doctors will have an opinion, it is important for you to weigh the pros and cons  in all areas and make the decision that’s best for your family.

In the meantime, remember that pregnancy can take the ultimate toll on your body and even if you feel recovered chances are your body will be working to repair and replenish long after the baby is born.  Focus on eating a healthy balanced diet and pay special attention to replacing omega 3’s, iron, folic acid and zinc for the most optimal healthy pregnancy possible.

 

 

Do you have tips on preparing for your next pregnancy?  Leave us a comment below.

 

 

 

 

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Introducing our very first Real Mom Friday Story by Marisa Friedman

Three Generations of Sass!

Every summer we spend two weeks at my mom’s house outside of Boston. This summer my mom and I were driving in the car when my daughter decided to talk to me as if she was the parent and I was her child.

Now let me take a minute to describe my daughter Grace, who is four going on twenty-four. She prefers ceasar salads over chicken nuggets and has been carrying a purse around with her since she could walk. She also told me at the age of 2 that when she turned 3 she would be drinking wine, chewing gum and have a baby in her belly.  I am sure you can all relate and know a four year old just like her.

This was not the first time Grace spouted off her demands in a sassy tone.  The girl is known for having a sharp tongue.   I took a deep breath, found my Zen and calmly reminded her that as her mother, I was in charge and it was unacceptable for her to speak to me that way.  I asked her if she needed me to use my stern voice so that she would remember this. She quickly replied no and apologized. Huh, easy enough. No fight = win for me.  I was patting myself on the back for my amazing parenting job, when my own mom, sitting next to me in the car, started bugging me about something. Probably something along the lines of… “Marisa be sure to (fill in the blank)”.  Naturally, I responded in the way any child would. I told her to leave me alone and let’s just say I didn’t say it in the nicest tone.

Two seconds later Grace chimes in saying, “excuse me mommy, isn’t Mimi your mommy?” At that point I knew exactly where this was going!  “You are not talking very nice to her.” Before I could get the words out of my mouth my mom was repeating exactly what I had told Grace with a big grin.  She told me that she was my mother and in charge. She wanted to know if she needed to use her stern voice so that I would remember this. I quickly told her no and apologized.  Strangely enough this was not the first time disrespectful words poured out of my mouth, nor would it be the last.  I wonder where Grace gets it.

I know my mom is having the last laugh as she constantly reminds me that any lip I get from Grace is just payback for how I treated her.  You’re right mom…you are in charge.

 

Tell us how you deal with sassy kids!  Leave a comment below.

If YOU want to be featured as our next REAL MOM send us your story to info@wellementsbaby.com.

 

10 Kid Friendly Snacks You Don’t Have to Feel Guilty About

Our 10 favorite healthy kid snacks!

Many of the snacks items for kids on the shelves of our grocery stores today are filled with sugar, trans fats, and artificial ingredients.  Take a look at the nutritional labels of some of your go-to kid snacks for words like, high fructose corn syrup or artificial.  My guess is you will find that some of your favorites are unsuspecting culprits.

It’s no wonder that childhood obesity and diabetes are on the rise, or that this is the first generation of children predicted to not outlive their parents.  The majority of the space at grocery stores are devoted to processed food items filled with these ingredients.  We’ll we’ve handcrafted a list of guilt free kid friendly snacks and some new fun recipes for you try.

Cheese – cheese is a great protein filled snack for kids assuming your child isn’t lactose intolerant.  You can make it fun too! I’ve been known to make a cheese family starting with a baby piece and ending with a mom and dad piece, each a little bigger.  Huge hit!  Here’s a cute idea for cheese kabobs.

 

 

Veggies – OK so we realize this may not be the favorite snack option for your kiddies but there are many ways to make it fun.  Try crunchy carrots, cucumbers, or something new like jicama, which is easy and doesn’t taste like a veggie!  With something to dip veggies in you will have even more success!  Try these cute ants on a log options.

Hummus – Kids love to dip and hummus is the perfect protein filled option.  Slice a couple of your kids’ favorite crunchy veggies or whole wheat pita and dip away!

Fruit – Easy, healthy, and usually the least likely to warrant a fight.  Strawberries and blueberries are my favorite.  They are best bought organic, but if that’s not an option go for seasonal and local.  Check out this recipe for strawberry peanut butter crepes for a great way to mix things up!

 

Avocados – I can’t say enough about this amazing super food!  Filled with healthy fats, fiber and nutrients, like potassium and B Vitamins. They are a great snack just on their own or you can make and easy guacamoles like this recipes here for another great kid dip!

Eggs – Eggs are nutrient rich and great source of quality protein for kids.  Plus there are so many great ways to serve them up: keep hardboiled eggs in the refrigerator for up to 7 days,  scramble eggs with a little cheese (even sneak in a veggie) and put them in a whole wheat tortilla; or try this recipe for fun a toast dipping soft boiled egg.  Did you know that teachers report kids who eat a protein rich egg breakfast do better in school…read here.

It would be nice if we could whip eggs and avocado’s out of our purses wherever we went but let’s be honest and realistic…we need snacks on the go.

 

Yo Drops – Imagine healthy yogurt meets CANDY! These are fun portable snack your kids will love.  Yo Dropsare organic and made with hormone free milk and no artificial flavorings.  Best part is they only have 3 grams of sugar per pouch.  Guilt free…HURAAY!

 

 

Trader Joe’s Freeze Dried Strawberries– They are a perfect snack for on the run and the only ingredient is freeze dried strawberries!   They are tangy sweet and kids love them.  They also offer blueberries and pineapple too!

 

Veggie Chips – We know not every kid loves veggies, but most love chips. Veggie chips are the perfect antidote.  There are a couple of good store bought options like. But making your own is easier than you think and can be a great healthy option for kids while still making them feel like they are snacking on chips! Check out these easy recipes for kale, sweet potato and beet chips.

 

 

Jammy Sammy’s – Another great travel friendly snack from Revolutionary Foods.  They are snack size sandwiches that come in Peanut Butter Strawberry, Oatmeal Blueberry and a couple other choices.  What we love, whole grains, organic fruit, and no artificial ingredients.  Another guilt free winner!

What are your thoughts?  Do you have any healthy favorites to share?  Leave a comment below.

Wellements Baby Makeover!

Wellness from the beginning…naturally.

Hi All! Welcome to our Wellements Baby Blog! We’ve given ourselves a makeover…it was much needed! You can check out our new website here.  We’ve added a bunch of new things we hope you’ll like!  A new blog, new logo, and a new feature that we will DEFINITELY need your help on.  It’s called Real Mom Fridays.  Find out how you can be our Real Mom blog contributor here.

We plan on sharing a lot of cool stuff with you in our blog.  Mostly about you, your baby, and all thing wellness!  We know that being a parent can be a crazy juggling act and how hard it can be to the right balance …so how about a little help?

This is our mission, to help you navigate through the ever changing, overwhelming arena of health and well-being for you and your baby.   We will provide you with tools, information, reviews, how-to articles, and the latest information from experts in the field.  Thank you for stopping by and we hope you will stick around!

How about a NEW stroller to start?

To kick everything off, we’ve launched a Facebook contest.  It’s a STROLLER GIVEAWAY!  Like us on Facebook and enter to win an UPPA BABY Vista stroller…who couldn’t use one of those??!  The best part is, share it with your friends and if one of the friends you referred wins…you win a stroller too! (this is a way to increase your odds btw!)

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After frustration and a long search for a remedy for colic for triplets, Gripe Water helped this family. It can help you too!

Dear Wellements,

I have to tell you having triplet boys 6 months ago has been challenging. After the boys spent 2 weeks in the hospital we brought the boys home. After 4 weeks of not getting any sleep and endless hours of them crying and being fussy, we asked the doctors in there was anything we could do with them crying and not sleeping through the night. The doctors told us they would grow out of it and also gave us other ways to prevent them from colicing (warm towel on their stomach and rubbing their stomachs in a circular motion). All three of the boys had colic and discomfort after every feeding and nothing seemed to be working. Then we heard about Wellements Gripe Water.

I was at the point where I would try anything to get them to sleep through the night & stop crying. I went and bought the bottle of gripe water and the salesman told me he gave it to his daughter and within minutes she stopped colicing and ended her discomfort. I was like yeah right, but I had to try something. I went home and gave it them straight from the bottle. Within 5 minutes of giving the gripe water to them they stopped fussing and seemed less fussy. They started to sleep better through the night. This was a relief and I gave the pediatricians the information I had on gripe water. They now recommend it to a lot of patients for crying, fussing, colicing and sleepless babies.

Now, 6 months later we are still giving the gripe water to them at every feeding and they sleep very well. We thought after this long we could stop giving it to them but found out very quickly they needed the gripe water every feeding. We have also used it for our 3 year old daughter when she has an upset stomach and it helped with her discomfort. I am a true believer in Gripe Water and how it works. I will continue to buy it and give it to my children.

I will tell everyone that I know about Wellements Gripe Water and recommend they order or buy it.

Thank You!!!

Mick, Val, Lexi, Troy, Brody and Colby
Utah